Don't set goals.....and still SUCCEED!
Do you avoid setting goals because you know that you will just give up and end up feeling worse about yourself after you worked so hard and failed? Well, I want you to know that it is completely in your control to succeed. | You can scroll past this post thinking it is just another one of those ridiculous motivational posts on the power of goal setting or positive thinking, but you would be wrong! If you are curious enough to read a little bit more, you might just learn a little secret that could quite literally change your life without setting a single goal. |
If you truly want to be successful and make a positive change in your life, then don’t set any goals this year. Instead, I encourage you to make focused commitments. Most people set goals where the success or failure of the goal is based on things outside of their control. You cannot always control the outcome or results of your effort but you have complete control over the consistent effort you exert to honor the focused commitments you make to yourself.
I could write a best-selling book but not win a Pulitzer Prize. I could compose a really wonderful song and not win a Grammy Award simply because Paul McCartney composed another amazing song that is at the top of my playlist. Sir Paul’s newly minted classic song that will still be loved 3 generations from now does not diminish the quality of my song at all. My song’s value remains unchanged from the time the last note fades on the speaker, to the time the nominations are read and the winner is announced at the award ceremony.
So instead of setting a goal of losing weight, getting in shape, landing your dream job, or finding the love of your life this year it may be better to re-frame them as objectives and make a commitment to take a single action that you can consistently do.
A focused commitment can be as simple as drinking a glass of water every morning. It could be doing a few stretches in bed before you get up. You could send out 5 resumes or sign up for a certification class. You can go out and do something you love and meet new people. The point is to choose whatever act you can stay sufficiently motivated to consistently do and does not overwhelm you. It must be something that you can focus on and be so small that doing it may even seem very easy or quite silly to anyone else who may be standing by in judgement of everything you do. As you gain strength and power through consistency things become easier. Habits are established and you can increase the trust you have in yourself to actually follow through and begin to do even more.
Focusing on these small commitments over a prolonged period works well because it immediately puts your successful accomplishment into the win column! You are victorious right now in the moment rather than at some arbitrary point in the future.
I could write a best-selling book but not win a Pulitzer Prize. I could compose a really wonderful song and not win a Grammy Award simply because Paul McCartney composed another amazing song that is at the top of my playlist. Sir Paul’s newly minted classic song that will still be loved 3 generations from now does not diminish the quality of my song at all. My song’s value remains unchanged from the time the last note fades on the speaker, to the time the nominations are read and the winner is announced at the award ceremony.
So instead of setting a goal of losing weight, getting in shape, landing your dream job, or finding the love of your life this year it may be better to re-frame them as objectives and make a commitment to take a single action that you can consistently do.
A focused commitment can be as simple as drinking a glass of water every morning. It could be doing a few stretches in bed before you get up. You could send out 5 resumes or sign up for a certification class. You can go out and do something you love and meet new people. The point is to choose whatever act you can stay sufficiently motivated to consistently do and does not overwhelm you. It must be something that you can focus on and be so small that doing it may even seem very easy or quite silly to anyone else who may be standing by in judgement of everything you do. As you gain strength and power through consistency things become easier. Habits are established and you can increase the trust you have in yourself to actually follow through and begin to do even more.
Focusing on these small commitments over a prolonged period works well because it immediately puts your successful accomplishment into the win column! You are victorious right now in the moment rather than at some arbitrary point in the future.
Once you can do that one small focused thing then the magic really kicks in!
That seemingly small positive act makes the next positive act a little bit easier. And the one after that even easier. Pretty soon the positive momentum takes over and you discover that you are far more successful than you ever thought you had the power to be. These small consistent acts performed repeatedly in succession transforms your life from feeling like a perpetual failure, incapable of changing your life, to a magnificent and triumphant warrior capable of anything.
So what small acts are you willing to do today? What are your focused commitments?
You truly are magnificent. So don’t let your fear of failure prevent you from the success that is with in your reach right now in this moment. A focused commitment is all it takes! Let’s get focused and make 2023 a magnificent year!
So what small acts are you willing to do today? What are your focused commitments?
You truly are magnificent. So don’t let your fear of failure prevent you from the success that is with in your reach right now in this moment. A focused commitment is all it takes! Let’s get focused and make 2023 a magnificent year!
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